Thoughts

We always know people when we live with them..... people always behave differently with different people in different situations..... so never compare their treatments with your's....
there are two factors : 

1. how you treat others and what u expect from them

2. what they expect from you and what they get
is what decides their behaviour towards you....
 

SO NO ONE IS GOOD OR BAD.....its just that they are preffering things which suits them.... it doesnt tell anything about you solely....
neither we should judge them on the grounds of good or bad..... time decides that....

11 traits of being introvert :

1. You Enjoy Solitude

2. Dislike Small-talk, but enjoy in-depth conversations about topics that interest you.

3. People Say You Are A Good Listener

4. You like to think about and choose your words carefully before speaking

5. Dislike Conflict

6. You prefer to work alone and without interruptions

7. When stressed or need to recharge, you spend a few days alone by yourself.

8. Often express yourself through writing

9. People describe you as “soft-spoken” or “mellow”

10. You like people, just not all the time

11. You don’t normally like to take the lead, but will step up when no one else will.

its nothing wrong to be introvert....... its just a way of expressing yourself...

Check your Marriage Sucess

Here's a marrige Meter, Check your marrige by scaling your satistfaction.

On a scale of 1 – 10 rate your satisfaction with your marriage in the areas of:

1. Shared Values _____

2. Commitment to each other _____

3. Communication Skills _____

4. Conflict Resolution Skills _____

5. Intimacy/Sexuality _____

6. Spirituality/Faith _____

7. Money Management _____

8. Appreciation/Affection _____

9. Lifestyle _____

10. Recreation _____

11. Decision Making _____

12. Parenthood _____

13. Household chores / gender differences _____

14. Careers _____

15. Balancing Time_____

TOTAL: _____

Since this isn’t a test, but rather a map for you to use for further discussion, your total is not based on 100%. If your self-ratings on a specific topic are:

8-10: You are quite happy with this aspect of your marriage. This could be because you are generally an optimistic person and easy going, or you’ve been very intentional about working on your marriage.

4-7: You are sliding along in your marriage, perhaps not paying much attention to it or avoiding areas of conflict. It’s also possible that you have high expectations and are not an easy grader.

1-3: You are pretty dissatisfied with this aspect of your marriage. Check out the other areas of this Blog that address this topic.

Another way of assessing whether you need to pay more attention to certain areas of your marriage is by comparing answers with your spouse. If your ratings on any given topic differ by more than three points, you’ll want to discuss why.

Finally, if both you and your spouse have total scores of:

100 + Give yourself an A – but don’t get proud or complacent.

75-99 Give yourself a B – you’re in good shape and can pinpoint those areas you’ll want to discuss further.

50-74 Give yourself a C – You may have much to discuss or one of you may be more dissatisfied than the other. Check it out.

15-49 Looks like trouble. The fact that you are visiting this blog and have filled out this self-assessment, however, is a good sign. You haven’t given up; you want to make your marriage better. Now get to work on it. See a counselor or attend a program for perfect wedding life

Bonding between you and your hubby

Check your Bonding and love with your partner

Circle the values in column 1 that are most important to you. Consider that some values may initially appeal to you but upon deeper reflection (column 2) you realize that you don’t always hold them as a priority. Then rank them in importance from 1-14. Discuss with your fiancé(e) or spouse.

1. Honesty	Yes, but sometimes it’s OK to fudge.
2. Commitment	Sure, but some commitments are just too hard to keep.
3. Fidelity	I don’t plan on having an affair but who knows the future.
4. Loyalty	It might be necessary to violate a loyalty if another’s safety is at risk.
5. Devotion to parents	Parents are important, but spouse comes first.
6. Generosity	I’ll give, but only after I’ve taken care of myself.
7. Peacemaking	Sometimes evil needs to be confronted, even with violence.
8. Living simply	I work hard for my money. Why can’t I enjoy its rewards?
9. Kindness	Some people are too kind and others take advantage of them.
10. Self-control	I believe in being flexible and spontaneous, not being uptight.
11. Education	Education is over-rated. I wouldn’t sacrifice current wants for it.
12. Sacrifice	Suffering and delayed gratification have no use and are to be avoided.
13. Friendship	Friends are nice, but family and spouse are more important.
14. Children	I value my freedom more.

Rishton ki suruwat @Sasural"

            Hello Friends Few Days ago I Meet  my School friend Tejaswini Khekale And we got in contact with each other. After talking with each other i come to know that she is very good writer and thinker she shared few topics with me and i am very impressed to listen her views . From lots of Topic i really feel that this Topic i need to share with you all .Because as my blog is based on Ladies and girls it is very important for all of us to discuss our life from "Beginning to End".

IT IS THE TRUTH : EK MA SAAS BAN SAKTI HAI, PAR EK SAAS KABHI MAA NAHI BAN SAKTI......
THE REASON BEING BITTER : WHAT SHE FACED IN HER LIFE AS DAUGHTER, AS WIFE AND AS DAUGHTER IN LAW MAKES HER HEART SO SHRINKED, THAT IT CONVERTS IT INTO STONE AND SHE FORGETS THAT THE OTHER PERSON IS NOW GOING THROUGH THE SAME IN HER FORM..... SHE BECOMES WHAT SHE GOT FROM THOSE ROLES....

EK BETA HAMESHA APNE MAA BAAP KE SATH REHKAR UNKA HI REHTA HAI, PAR EK BETI APNE MAA BAAP KE SATH APNE PATI KE MAA BAAP KO BHI APNA BANAKAR UNKO KHUSH RAKHNE KI APNE TARIKE SE KOSHISH KARTI REHTI HAI......
AUR BADLE ME USKE AANSUON PAR BHI USE SHIKAYAT HI MILTI HAI.....
SHAK HI MILTA HAI....
EK LADKA APNE GHAR KE COMFORTS KO CHOD KE EK DIN BHI KISI SUR KE GHAR JAKE REHNE KI SOCH BHI NAHI SAKTA.... PAR EK LADKI APNE COMFORTS LIFETIME KE LIYE CHODKAR AATI HAI...... KYA USKE ITNE BADE TYAG KE LIYE PATI KA PYAR BHI NAHI MILNA CHAIYE?
KYU LADKE NAHI SAMAJH PAATE KI LADKI PAISE NAHI CHAHTI, WO BUS PATI KA PYAR, THODA WAQT, KUCH SUNAHARE PAL CHAHTI HAI....... PAR JAB YE SAB NAHI MILTE TAB LADKI CHEEZOM ME APNI KHUSHI DHUNDHTI HAI......
KADWA HAI PAR SACH HAI......

EK SAAS KO USKE BETE KI KHUSHI KI CHINTA HAI, AUR JO LADKI APNA SUKH CHODKE AATI HAI KYA USKA KOI HAK NAHI? KITNA ASANI SE KEH DIYA JATA HAI KI WO USKE BETE KO KHUSHI NAHI DETI, PAR YE KYU BHUL JATI HAI KI USKI KHUSHI KE LIYE HI LADKI APNE AAP KO BHUL KE UNKE GHAR ATI HAI.....
UNKO KESE TAKLIF DE SAKTI HAI? JAB WO APNE LOGON KE DARD KO SAMAJH SAKTI HAI TO DUSRON KA KAISE NAHI SAMJHEGI? JAB WO UNKE BETE KO KHUSH RAKHNE KE LIYE HI ATI HAI TO USKO DUKHI KARNE KA SOCH KESE SAKTI HAI?

AUR RAHI BAAT RISHTON KI, TO KABHI SAAS KE BHI MAA NE CHODA TABHI WO BETA UNKA HO PAYA NA.... JESE EK BETI KO APNA GHAR CHODNA HOTA HAI, MAA KO BHIU KUCH BAATEN SAMAJHNI CHAIYE KI BETA SIRF EK RISHTEY ME NAHI HAI,,, SHADI KE BAAD USKI JIMMEDARI LADKI KE PRATI (I MEAN USKE WIFE KE PRATI) BHI BANTI HAI..... TO AGAR WO USKA BHALA SOCHE TO USME APKA APMAAN THODI HAI....

SUCH SILLY THINGS NA? APNE AAP KO MATURED KEHLANE WALE LOG USKA MATLAB NAHI SAMAJTE....

MATURITY RISHTON KI CHOTI CHOTI BAATON KO SAMAJHNE ME HAI.... DUNIYA SE JYADA APNO KO MAHATVA DENA CHAIYE..... LOG KYA SOCHTE HAIN ISSE JYADA APNE KYA SOCHENGE ISKA VICHAR KARNA CHAIYE......

KYUKI LOG TO HAR TARAF SE BOLENGE.... HUM LAB TAK LOGO KE LIYE JHUTH KA JAAL BUNTE JAAYE? ITNA BHI NAHI SAMAJHTE HAIN KI LOG TO BAATE BANANE KE LIYE HOTE HAIN.... 

SO GIRLS, PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT YOU HAVE TO GROW WISER, AND DON'T LET OTHERS FACE WHAT U HAD TO....

 

रोज़ जब आपका पैगाम आता है, साथ में अपने नया फलसफा लाता है, ज़िन्दगी से जब रूबरू हो रहे होते है तब रिश्तों के नए पहलु नज़रों के सामने ले आता है जिनसे उम्मीद रखते थे कभी, वो अपन ही भुलाते चले गए हमे, और जिनसे न थी उम्मीद कोई उनका रोज़ किश्तों में प्यार आता है .

* a humble request to all readers :
whatever i say is not specific, but general.... it doesnt imply for all.... and i dont mean everybody is the way i project in my writings..... so dont conclude anything negative from it people..... i dont convey negativity, i just say about general notions which i feel if changed or understood can make difference in lives.....